Thank you for the prayers. We really appreciate them. We believe we do not have to compromise our faith or morals to have a child. Maybe that is the lesson God is wanting us to learn. Sure to the world we look crazy, but we are not to be of this world. God's got this. I know He does. He would never leave or forsake us. My faith isnt shaken it is strengthened. God is in control and we are giving it over to Him. His will be done what ever that will is.
Be blessed
Friday, December 30, 2011
Thursday, December 29, 2011
Not the Easy Way out
Adoption to some may seem like the easy way to have a kid. You dont have to try to get pregnant. You dont have to carry a child, gain weight, have horrible deep scarring stretchmarks all over your body, you dont have to have back pain and leg cramps and contractions. There is no "labor" to go through. Someone does all that and gives you the kid. Easy!
If only!
When you choose to adopt you choose to have someone know every detail of your whole life and question how and why you do the things you do. You have training and have to read books, take classes, CPR training. Someone comes out to your home and inspects it. You must have FBI fingerprints done and child abuse clearances and background checks. Everyone in your house has to have a physical. Some times you have to have a psych eval. You have to show them pictures of the things you do as a family.
What pregnant woman ever went to the doctor and heard, "Well in order to have this child I will need fingerprints, clearances, a physical and someone will be out to check your home and make sure it will be suitable for a child...oh and you must take some classes and give us the last 3 years of tax returns."
Ha! Yeah right. Having a kid is so easy 16 year olds do it just for fun.
Today a SW called. She said we would have to get a TB test and vaccinate all our children in order to proceed with an adoption through the state. She said that because we homeschool and dont vaccinate no case worker would ever choose us for a child. Period. She said the child would have to be vaccinated against all the diseaases my unvaccinating kids have in their bodies due to us not vaccinating. That is so not true. We arent all vessels of diseases and in order for them never to come out we have to vaccinate. We are to call her back with what we decide.
What is there to decide? We are firmly convicted against vaccinating. A friend ask if maybe this was God telling us to vaccinate. No it isnt. Paul and I agree and with prayer we are standing firm we will not vaccinate our children. Paul said if God has a child for us then the case worker will choose us. We believe 100% our God is bigger. We just need our case worker to understand our faith.
You know how come everyone can be intolerant of Christians but Christians must tolerate everyone and everything? If I were a gay person would you tell me because I was gay I could not adopt a child? If I were Muslim would you say I couldnt adopt? What about if I was a sister wife? But because I believe in my faith that I should raise my child and in doing so I believe the best for that child is 1- not vaccinating and 2- homeschooling I should be denied the right to parent another child. A child with down syndrome is way better off in a state run group home than with loving parents and 5 siblings to love on him!
I just have a few more things to say. My 10 year was independently tested and is testing on an 11th grade level. My 7 year old is testing on a 5th grade level. My 4yr old can do 3rd grade math. My 3yr old is more independent and strong willed than anyone I have ever met and my son who has a life threatening genetic condition who was adopted BTW would not be as healthy or doing as much as he is right now had it not been for the care he receives from his mama and daddy. That was told to us by therapist and doctors. So I think God, Paul and I are doing just fine raising our children.
Be blessed
If only!
When you choose to adopt you choose to have someone know every detail of your whole life and question how and why you do the things you do. You have training and have to read books, take classes, CPR training. Someone comes out to your home and inspects it. You must have FBI fingerprints done and child abuse clearances and background checks. Everyone in your house has to have a physical. Some times you have to have a psych eval. You have to show them pictures of the things you do as a family.
What pregnant woman ever went to the doctor and heard, "Well in order to have this child I will need fingerprints, clearances, a physical and someone will be out to check your home and make sure it will be suitable for a child...oh and you must take some classes and give us the last 3 years of tax returns."
Ha! Yeah right. Having a kid is so easy 16 year olds do it just for fun.
Today a SW called. She said we would have to get a TB test and vaccinate all our children in order to proceed with an adoption through the state. She said that because we homeschool and dont vaccinate no case worker would ever choose us for a child. Period. She said the child would have to be vaccinated against all the diseaases my unvaccinating kids have in their bodies due to us not vaccinating. That is so not true. We arent all vessels of diseases and in order for them never to come out we have to vaccinate. We are to call her back with what we decide.
What is there to decide? We are firmly convicted against vaccinating. A friend ask if maybe this was God telling us to vaccinate. No it isnt. Paul and I agree and with prayer we are standing firm we will not vaccinate our children. Paul said if God has a child for us then the case worker will choose us. We believe 100% our God is bigger. We just need our case worker to understand our faith.
You know how come everyone can be intolerant of Christians but Christians must tolerate everyone and everything? If I were a gay person would you tell me because I was gay I could not adopt a child? If I were Muslim would you say I couldnt adopt? What about if I was a sister wife? But because I believe in my faith that I should raise my child and in doing so I believe the best for that child is 1- not vaccinating and 2- homeschooling I should be denied the right to parent another child. A child with down syndrome is way better off in a state run group home than with loving parents and 5 siblings to love on him!
I just have a few more things to say. My 10 year was independently tested and is testing on an 11th grade level. My 7 year old is testing on a 5th grade level. My 4yr old can do 3rd grade math. My 3yr old is more independent and strong willed than anyone I have ever met and my son who has a life threatening genetic condition who was adopted BTW would not be as healthy or doing as much as he is right now had it not been for the care he receives from his mama and daddy. That was told to us by therapist and doctors. So I think God, Paul and I are doing just fine raising our children.
Be blessed
Monday, December 19, 2011
Still here
Still doing the paper thing. Recovering from surgery. Dealing with sick kids, sick husband and sick self.
Will update soon.
Merry Christmas!!
Be blessed
Will update soon.
Merry Christmas!!
Be blessed
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